RJ Ledesma, the summit host established early on: “Men with PE often report emotional and relationship distress and some avoid pursuing sexual relationships altogether because of PE-related embarrassment. But the issue is not isolated to men as female partners also experience emotional and psychological distress which often leads to unwanted stress in the relationship.”
The first hurdle to overcome however is not at all minor:
there is so little awareness for premature ejaculation (PE), as men tend to
deny the condition and women would rather grin and bear it, no matter how
dissatisfied they are in the bedroom3. Until recently, the winds
have finally changed, and the topic is no longer confined and whispered about
in secret. In the first ever summit on Premature Ejaculation, the media and
celebrity couples were free to speak up on what they know about the topic, and
offer insights, observations --- and even eye-opening stories were put forward
by the likes of Anthony Pangilinan and Maricel-Laxa Pangilinan, Paolo Abrera
and wife Suzie Entrata, Regine Tolentino and husband Lander Vera-Perez. The
lively exchange catalysed an open discussion of the condition.
Experts were
there providing guidance and wisdom: Dr. Margie Holmes, noted and popular
author and psychologist specializing in sex therapy, as well as urologist and men’s
health expert Dr. Dennis Serrano. During the summit, necessary actions that
should be taken by a sufferer surfaced and were confirmed: begin by facing up
to the issue... work with your partner --- be supportive of each other's needs
and lack, discuss with your partner and the most crucial step, consult with
your doctor. As the Sex Survey showed, couple tried different methods, and
unfortunately reaching out to a doctor is not high on the list.1
Dr. Dennis Serrano explains the condition: Premature
ejaculation (PE) occurs when a man is unable to control or delay ejaculation on
his own wish after vaginal penetration, resulting in short latency time and
decreased sexual satisfaction, as well as personal distress and interpersonal
difficulty. Premature ejaculation (PE) is the most common
sexual dysfunction in men, even higher than Erectile Dysfunction.2
Dr. Margie Holmes stressed that the issue centers more on lack
of control and should be measured not just by time but more on the ability to
satisfy one’s partner.
This statement encapsulates what the crux of the problem
is --- that premature ejaculation is not just a physiological problem affecting
men, it is an issue that affects relationships between partners, between
husbands and wives. Stress, dissatisfaction, insecurity - the problem of PE
affects many, and sadly behind closed doors, many choose to brush it away, when
in fact, they can get help. This is one of the objectives of this event and
like most things, awareness leads to understanding, understanding will lead to
acceptance. And hopefully with acceptance (instead of denial) people can seek
help, specifically from their doctors.
Menarini is determined to bring to the forefront of our
consciousness the issue of PE --- primarily for Filipino couples. The company
had set up a website that can help guide a man --- and his partner, in
determining if he indeed suffers from this condition. The website helps a
sufferer find the doctor for him, so that he can get treatment for the
condition that hurts him, his partner and their relationship: visit www.controlPE.ph.
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